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Marriage First: Keeping the Connection Alive

 


In the busyness of life, especially with kids, it's easy to let your marriage come second. But here's the truth: your spouse should come first. It was just the two of you before children, and one day it’ll be just the two of you again. That’s why it's so important to keep nurturing your relationship. I'm incredibly blessed to be married to a man who gets this. He’s amazing at planning date nights—seriously, some of the best! And he also loves shopping with me, which is a bonus. So when I say he’s my best friend, I mean it! 


One of the things we prioritize in our marriage is dating often. We make time to get away as a couple, and thankfully my parents help by watching our kids. These little trips away are such a gift. We get to let loose, stay up late, eat ice cream in bed, blast our favorite music, and just be silly. It takes us back to our early days together, when life was a little simpler. And trust me, it’s a great way to recharge and remember why you fell in love in the first place.


But I know that not everyone has the luxury of frequent getaways, and that's okay! You can still keep the connection alive with at-home dates. Almost every night, after the kids are in bed, my husband and I make it a point to grab a snack, a drink, and spend time together. Whether we’re chatting about our day, watching a show, or just enjoying the quiet, it's a moment we both look forward to. It’s our little way of reconnecting.


One of my favorite sayings is, “Coffee can turn anything into a date.” There’s something about grabbing a coffee and taking a drive together that just makes you want to talk. Even if the kids are in the backseat, it still feels like a moment for us. I guess I'm a simple girl like that, but it’s the little things that matter.


Marriage takes effort, but it’s the fun, the laughter, and the quality time that make it all worthwhile. So whether you’re going away for the weekend or just sneaking in a quiet moment together after the kids are asleep, make your relationship a priority. Laugh often, play games, watch shows, or just talk. And don’t forget the coffee! ☕

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